We all want one or more of the following: marriage, romance, a solid relationship, compatibility, a happy and successful future, financial stability, kids, etc…
And while everyone wants something different, it's our own unique dreams and desires that keep us out there searching for our one true love.
It takes time to really get to know someone, but I think as women, we are more apt to rushing into a relationship without much thought, relying more on the passion or emotional connections from the new person in our life.
The first time you spoke to that person, chemistry probably took over. It can be over-whelming at first, but chemistry can easily be confused for love, when it's really only attraction. Attraction can blossom and become love, but be careful not the get the two mixed up.
Many of us long for that everlasting relationship, the death-do-us-part, for better or for worse, richer or poorer. What is the secret or secrets that hold those relationships together? I believe some of the secrets are as follows:
- You have to love each other with a pure love and know that no matter what life throws at you, you will be there for each other.
- You must also have respect for one another and allow each other to be who you really are.
- The unique qualities of who you are as an individual make you stronger as a couple.
Of course love has a lot to do with your relationship, but it's not the only thing a healthy relationship depends on. From the beginning, your relationship must also have a strong foundation of trust, respect, commitment, communication, etc…
Honesty is an important key for any healthy relationship - Looking into your significant others eyes while communicating with them is the best way to let them know you are being honest with them.
Life is not always easy and there's rarely a red carpet laid out, but in the middle of any storm, you must push through the tough times together to really appreciate what you have together.
If you're one of the lucky ones that has found love, then you have to be willing to accept the responsibilities that go along with it. I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH!
Even if it means putting yourself aside, and putting your wants and needs aside so that you can encourage and support your significant others goals and dreams.
There are so many things you will come to realize and learn throughout your search for love, but learn well, and when it doesn't work out the way you planned, pick yourself back up, you will someday find the one that will love you, just the way you are - if that's what you want of course.
And remember that ALL relationships require some effort and creativity to keep it alive!
Empower yourself and allow yourself to overcome the anxiety you may have about relationships so that you can build the foundation for your relationship and love on something that will help it survive. (A good start would be to build your relationship on the things I mentioned above: trust, respect, commitment, communication, honesty...)
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